1. First… YOU KNOW YOUR CHILD and his or her needs.
   For the child who needs to move wear them out – wear them out I repeat – fun and laughter and sunshine and water and dirt and play during the daylight hours. Running and jumping and fun after school or being overwhelmed in learning new things. Play – let them play and redirect their pent up energies into joy. Provide a sensory environment they can exude in!
   For the child who needs solitude to regain their energy – give them a refuge – create a place of meaning for them – filled with their favorite hobby or activities. Provide a sensory safe environment to soothe in. Let them pour themselves wholly into it for a period of time before dinner. This is their time to regain strength and empty their mind from the day.
2. Then… A healthy meal
3. And then… begin to build in household peace – slow soothing peace. A majority of children and adults with FASD have sleep disorders, for our daughter she can remain awake for six days! For some it is over-sensitive to stimuli in their environment, which may cause them to wake up or have trouble falling asleep, for others it is a mind and body that simply will not shut off and for others it is a mind that wakes up frequently with a startle all night long, never reaching full rest.

Capture the natural opportunities to produce melatonin by creating an environment for healthy sleep.

Bringing calm to a household of atypical children can be difficult. By developing a sleep transition system you provide your children a lifetime strategy to learn to calm, rest and gain sleep.

Sleep strategies that made a difference for our family
(We have the kid that can stay awake even as an adult for six days! )

1. Limit distractions – finish family routines do not energize the kids during this time this is the beginning of shutdown – picking up, putting things away, making lunches, setting out clothes for next day before dinner. By doing this earlier while the kids are still energized it begins to focus them for the next day. Electronic basket collects the things we will not be using for the rest of the evening as a family – cell phones, video games, remotes, whatever?
   
2. After dinner bring out the calming activities like legos, puzzles, coloring. Dim the lights throughout the house. Close the curtains and shades to shut out the outside noises.
3. Diffuse calming oils – like lavendar, cedarwood, geranium, vanilla, sage – discover with the person you love what is calming and soothing. Your child may have a keen sense of smell so check with them on what smells are calming and soothing.
4. If you are still using electronic items begin shutting off blue light (cell phones, television, computers) two hours before going to bed and change sounds in the home to quiet music or soft nature. Move to a warmer spectrum of lighting. Blue light (which is the light we have during most of the day limits our production of melatonin, in the absence of blue light, melatonin production increases and we get sleepier. (Read more about blue light)
5. Shake the “zingys” off – we found rapidly waving the hands, kicking the feet or shaking the whole body helped move energy. “We cast off the troubles of the day.” All the yuck fell off… or at least we tried.  If you have night lights this is the time to engage the children to tip toe and slowly turn them all on while turning house lights off or dimming them mouse quiet.
6. Prepare a warm bath with a chamomile, lavender, sandalwood scent and let the child soak while you write your to do list for the morning and then leave it!
7. Dim the lights.  We had a BETA FIGHTING FISH in a night lighted tank in the bathroom that was always alert to protect children padding in to go potty in the middle of the night. If you are staying in the bathroom while the children bathe, use a scented candle and dim the lights. I put the candle away when I am done and hide it.
8. Tumble the towels and pajamas in the dryer to warm and wrap a child. Drying with a warm towels helps in the transition of leaving the bathtub and warm pajamas help in the transition from towel to bed clothes. Make sure all tags are off of sleep clothing and bedding is soft. Socks are the inside out or rightside in as the individual prefers.
9. Focus the picking – If your child has a picking issues – work together to discover a fidget that helps (may be stuffed animal, frayed blanket or pillow – just be prepared to allow it to be picked)
10. Practice some gentle slow stretching – help your child find stretches that are soothing.
11. Read and snuggle or listen to an audio books kind, happy story with child in bed with a soothing voice.  (Goodnight Moon and Nuzzle: Love Between a Boy and His Service Dog). We found a number of gentle reading places – the hammock in the summer, the porch swing or rocking glider, a snuggly day bed, bean bags and puppies, a tent bed or into their room. Settle in the critters – stuffed animals, service dog or pet dogs, dolls, cats – into proper places. Slow rocking or swinging can be calming before bed and can address vestibular processing needs. Note: some children need very empty rooms – for others these are marvelous. Click to see children’s tent and trundle beds | some great hammocks
12. Soft circle touches or brushes from knee to toes, elbows to fingers and on face – clockwork circles beginning at the 6 o’clock help to soothe (children with sensory issues may need different kinds of touches – some days our daughter wants light friction or deep pressure – she usually has an idea of what will help her best.)
13. Mist the monsters. We use a spritzer with lavender, chamomile, sandalwood, or sage to scare out whatever might be in the closet or under the bed.
14. Give a day of thanks. We say prayers. This final quiet time is for remembering all the good things in the day and being thankful and asking for protection for all the people we love – prayers in our house could take a while because even neighbors dogs or the tree squirrels could be added. As we continued to give thanks “for everything she could think of” I slowed my speech and softened my voice to a whisper as another of our sleep strategies.

Mom and Dad’s Sleep Strategies.

• I write in my journal or read before I fall asleep or at least quietly eyes closed rest.
• We listen to the news in the morning not the evening
• I leave a to do list on my desk which includes a worry list
• If I need to worry about something – it will be just where I left it in the morning.
• We listen to a book on tape and snuggle.
• Yes, and we let the fur creatures cuddle in too,